I've decided if my bf and I break up (God FORBID as I'm very in love with him) I will not return to online dating but will give celibacy a chance. Dating after, say, 58 or 59 is NOT worth the attempt imo. Perhaps 'cause finally you are stuck with all these bitter, old, paranoid,hypocritical boomer guys. I don't know....Am alright with my isolation now. Crave it really (bf and I have a long distance relationship but just 72 miles). Cheap hookers nearby Langford. We're just apart about 4 nights before reunited though. And intend to reside together sooner or later in the foreseeable future. So my dating experience can be best summed up by the old standard Just in Time". Listen to the Streisand version circa 1965.
The amusing thing is both me and my present bf ONLY dated younger for the most part when online dating. He said it was vanity on his part and I told him I did it'cause I could (get away with it). But asI've said numerous times on this particular blog, I also was just competent to date younger (my usual preference except for my present same-age bf) cause I lied about my age. Shaved off quite a couple of years too girls! lol I was born in 1953, but wouldput 1960 or1961 on my profile. What helped is I have a killer figure (thin, but curves, 36D) and pretty face thanks to years of intermittant plastic surgery (but nothing below the waistline til lately (coolsculpting which I recommend). Myplastic surgeon's nurse says I project youthfulness and look, on a good day, in my 40s still. So, I Have had a clear edge. I suppose I'm one of the blessed ones, but I think that it's a combo of my character, a form of God glow"/spiritualityand looks. Men have ever been attracted to me in person. Big time. Occasionally it was flattering and sometimes a problem frankly.
I have the same observation. Andrew. For awhile I was amazed at women's profiles with their shopping list of demands (don't contact me if...you must be blah blah blah....""with no statement of what they have to offer. Definitely a man can gather much about a girl from reading her profile, and women in many cases are so inundated with answers from inferior matches they become exasperated and begin to set boundaries; yet for me this language indicates an attitude of entitlement and self absorption, and suggests maybe an assumption that she is the more desired one in the deal. Maybe women are accustomed to being pursued. A more considerate mature woman will comprehend that relationships aren't just about her and her needs. Clearly men can frequently behave the same manner, merely wanting sex. I believe the more profound truth is the fact that many folks only blunder unconsciously into relationships, compelled by their poorly understood desires, understanding neither themselves or what they want from a connection.
Debby, you are discussing rot as far as I am concerned. I am 62 and let me tell you, I've had nights" with women 20-30 years younger and they do not even ask what I do for a job. Sure the long term prospects aren't good with a considerably younger girl. But in my experience a great deal of much younger women go for me. They say I am a silver fox and fine lol - Sorry, but as much as you'd like to believe it is all about a cynical money grab, I must tell you we elderly men, like some mature women attract the opposite sex. Unfortunately, a lot of people do not entice the opposite sex. nature is cruel.
Men over 45 do have more choices regarding dating. However there are ways around this. First, a girl has to expressly state what she offers a guy (that he needs) in the context of dating and relationships. I have read tens of thousands of female profiles (35-55 years old) and almost none of them actually state what they provide a man. Normally, it is a listing of demands and preferences. This really is not great advertising. A female should be able to answer the question What do I provide a man he wants?" If she doesn't know, (or is offended by the question) she is not ready for dating.
Kathleen, I am an old man and many women on line in my age group make out they aren't interested in the younger men. But of course they're. It is just that all the younger men approaching senior women are mainly, looking for what they consider to be the quickest way to get easy sex. They simply reveal interest in guys their own age when the supply of younger guys dries up, or the men begin to lose interest in them. It's insulting to me. And that is why I'm not interested in the women, my age who approach me.
I get what you are saying. Langford, British Columbia cheap hookers. When my marriage fell apart a year ago people attempted to reassure me that I was a catch. And I still thing I should be - am tall, trim, look youthful for 48, run my own successful firm, understand the way to dance, am a community leader with environmental education and in my profession, lecture at university, write, from an exotic place (Alaska). As a result I'm really active so online dating looked like the answer. But in fact in six I can count on one hand the amount of women who have written back and no genuine dates. I decided women in my own date range and attractiveness range. Simply to check I wrote to fairly older women and less attractive than myself. Nothing. Got on Tinder and swiped almost every girl. Attempted all types of images. Nothing. while I talk to my female friends they say they're inundated. The sole dates I've had, 2, were from old pals who both told me they'd been fantasising about me for years but then they left it at that and seldom return my calls. At Meetups women look interested but they do not answer. Just don't realize this, it is as if they expect me to pursue them and I 'm reluctant to do that because the two times I did that when my union was souring permanently alienated good buddies. Really out to sea on all of this - so much has changed since I was last dating 26 years ago.
I feel like I 'm aging out" of online dating. I have seen after my last birthday (I turned 54 in June) that the answer I get on has dropped to almost nothing. It's as though moving from the early 50s to the mid 50s is some kind of death knell for a dating life. I begin contact with men in an age-range of about 3 years younger up to about 8 years older than myself. The potential matches the site sends me are age appropriate for me, but when I look at the age-range that those men want, (normally 35-50) I often go past them, knowing I can't compete with women in their desirable range, even though many of those men are as much as 5-8 years older than me. Langford Cheap Hookers! To put it differently, knowingly sends me matches that are likely not realistic for me to pursue. When I've e-mailed some of those guys, I never hear back. I am guessing they check out my profile, see my age, and probably read no further. Even if I'm within their desirable range, I still don't get much of a response. I presume the reason behind this is they can get younger women to respond to them, so why would they go for me when they have a chance with the 45 year-old version of me? If their first wife was their age, like a school honey or whatever, they likely feel entitled to a newer version, so to speak. Our culture encourages this. It's frustrating, as well as depressing and more than a little humiliating. It is the built in folly of on-line websites: you're just defined by your age, in bold type right next to your user name.
One more thing. I would like to ask all of my middle-aged online dating male and female compatriots a party favor. Please, let's rid our profiles of these overused phrases once and for all: glass-half-full, sensual, play-free, and easygoing. And these, let us omit these too: "I look 10 years younger than I am," "I hate talking about myself, but..." and all derivatives of "my buddies/mom/ex-husband/kids tell me that..I'm a glass-half-total optimist, who's easy going and looks 10 years younger than I am." I believe that if we can all agree to clean up our profiles then perhaps, just maybe, we can find some common ground and get back to the work of falling in love (or at least having fun trying).
Quit Using Your Profile to Whine about Men. Several men noticed how many women's online dating profiles are comprised chiefly of complaints about guys - either their profiles, or their behaviour in general. I agree with the men on this one. There isn't any point in using your profile story as a soapbox for your negative perception of all single, middle-aged men (for heaven's sakes make use of a blog for that). Cheap Hookers in Langford, British Columbia. So while I'm sure there are men (and women) out there who are logged on and acting badly, I really believe that women must take responsibility for their own picks. We can maintain our positive expectations while at the same time heeding our inner voice that warns us when something isn't quite correct. Far too frequently some women are led not by common sense, but by wishful thinking and a desire to be fine and not appear impolite, so we ignore the large, red flashing warning lights raging in our heads and proceed without caution. I once met a girl who expressed great dismay that she just couldn't trust the men she met online. She then continued to tell me a story about any of these men who spent days (yes, days) wooing her via e-mail. He told her stories of his limitless prosperity and his links to powerful individuals all around the globe. She slept with him on the second date (after he promised to whisk her off to a private island that next weekend). But that is not all. She also gave him all of her identifying information when he told her that she needed to be vetted by "his people." And guess what? Yep! Her identity was stolen. Complaining about how she could simply no longer trust men she met online was a bit like whining about how she could merely no longer trust Nigerian princes.
Tone Down the Boudoir Photos. You say you desire a good man who honors you as a human being and is interested in having a serious relationship with you, then you post pictures of yourself next to your bed (or on your bed, or in your bed, or in somebody else's bed). And if you aren't posting photos of yourself next to your bed, (or on your bed, or in your bed), you're posting photos with way too much cleavage. Now, that is absolutely great - I don't have any difficulty at all with this, and I am sure many men don't have a problem either - but what some guys do have a problem with is when women post said super-hot glamour pictures and then whine to their friends, or make statements on their profiles about how all men are dogs and only want them for sex. And while we are on the topic of criticism-filled profiles...
Athletic and Toned Means, well, Athletic and Toned. I hate the body descriptors as much as you do (well, except for you size 0 women out there, you almost certainly adore them), but I do think it is important that we at least strive for honesty. The word on the street is the fact that far too many women out there in the online dating world are using the "athletic and toned" descriptor in reference to their "about average" bodies (this complaint applies to men as well, of course). The thing is, there actually is not anything wrong with having an around typical (or curvy) body thus let us take the pressure off ourselves and heed the guidance of Amy Schuler, and recognize once and for all that a little meat on our bones is not going to kill us, and it isn't going to drive away the good guys either (right, good guys?).
No. More. Instagram. Pictures. I love Instagram photos because many of the filters make my eyes look strikingly blue (or green, or lavender), and some even shave about 10 years off my face. But do I post these photographs on my internet dating profile? No I don't. Why? Langford, British Columbia Cheap Hookers. Because my eyes are not actually that blue (or green or lavender), and I'm about 10 years older than my Instagram photos would have you believe. This was the number one complaint among the men I interviewed - artistically filtered (i.e., deceptive) photographs. Truth in advertising women, truth in advertising.
Waaaay too Many Pet Photos. This was a huge complaint among the guys I interviewed. They're taking a look at your profile to learn more about you, not your pets. So delete the pet photos, especially the ones without you in them. Oh and while we're on the topic of pet pictures, I got a private request of all you single, middle-aged women out there on dating websites: please, please, please delete any and all photographs of your cats. This is really important. I can't stress it enough. Single, middle aged women already must cope with way too many negative stereotypes, as well as the cat pictures (you cuddling with your cats, you kissing your cats, multiple cats on your own bed) merely function to strengthen them. I once composed a blog post about how dating occasionally made me feel undesirable , and I got hundreds of comments from single middle-aged men throughout all of North America informing me that I must live in a dark flat with 100 or so cats, so actually, please delete them. Cheap Hookers nearby Langford, Canada.
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